Tuesday, September 1, 2015

25 Days!

A year of planning will culminate in 25 days.  It's crazy that you spend this much time bringing it all together, but there really is a reason for the length.  As parents, Mr. Golfer and I have pretty much insisted on a year engagement because planning a wedding brings out positive and negative issues when families come together.  It is impossible not to coordinate this huge of an event and not have differences of opinions between bride and groom and their families.  I'm not speaking of huge fights or that sort of silly misbehavior. I'm just aware that people have varying opinions on how things should be done and the problem solving in those areas are initial insights for the bride and groom.  Seeing how their families work or not work together is a priceless experience before marriage. This stems from a horrible situation our oldest daughter experienced in her first engagement.  Eight weeks before her wedding it was cancelled. The emotion tied to that will have life long effects, but the cancellation was the best thing for her.  The families were so vastly different that making any decision was exhausting.  The stress of it finally broke the couple apart.  A devastating ending.

We have also in our experience of wedding planning ( this is our 4th) stressed that etiquette and hospitality of our guests is primary in wedding planning.  We don't use phrases like," it's all about the bride", or " it's ( insert name) wedding".  Although the focus is on the couple and the sacrament, what we center our planning around is our guests.  This is the largest event most brides will plan and it is the perfect opportunity as mother to show them how to express hospitality.  I  have always worked closely with my girls to teach them this virtue.  There is time built into the reception for both parents and the couple to greet each table of guests.  This is of primary importance.  In this day, attending a wedding can be an all day event and if you have traveled a distance for the event, it may mean an entire weekend.  Gratitude and thankfulness need to be expressed for this sacrifice.

Selecting wedding dates is also a tricky issue.  When one of our daughters become engaged she asked if we would mind if they married on our anniversary.  As sweet as the thought was, I discouraged them.  May is a complicated month to celebrate.  As parents, we never found time to honor our anniversary because of school calendars, church celebrations such as First Communions and graduations.  If it was difficult for us it would also be difficult for others, especially if they were traveling .  Another month we discourage is August.  In Texas it is just too hot.  You can't use outdoor spaces or enjoy any of the beauty of this area because most day are 100 degrees or higher.  School is starting back again and that makes it difficult again for families.  We do our best to avoid a date that falls on a family birthday and stay away from holidays.  And also an important consideration is another wedding of someone close. If at all possible, brides need to give other brides space, especially if they are close friends.  That can be a very frustrating experience.

We were fortunate in the beginning of our wedding days to be introduced to a fabulous wedding planner.  She has become a family friend and there is no way I would plan a wedding without her.  Although I'm pretty confident at this point, she makes the day happen while the girls and I enjoy some special times.  It is the best spent money.

Many prayers would be appreciated as we navigate these last days.  I'll share pictures as soon as I can. We've had to be fairly hush hush due to some other issues.  It won't be long before I can break the silence and share!!!

Wednesday, August 26, 2015

Yarn Along August?

Where has August gone?  I asked myself that question and immediately I remember we are 31 days away from a wedding.  I've been working hard with our planner to make this vision for my youngest daughter come true.  She is all about the details:))

The reveal for the secret knitting happened and I promise to come back with pictures.  But in the midst of all of this, my very good friend found out her daughter is expecting twins and my needles have begun to work toward that.  One boy and one girl, I am creating a set of  Noah's blankets.  If you check out my Ravelry projects you will find one I did last year.  I do think on the one for the girl I will insert some lace, but will keep with the overall seed stitch change of color.

Today my Caitlin turns 29!  That really can't be true.  My wandering daughter has grown into such a lovely young woman.  She meets challenges head on and her strength is just amazing.  Happy birthday sweetheart!

Wednesday, August 5, 2015

Yarn Along

Yes, I've missed some days here.  It's crunch time for this wedding with only 52 days to go.  We are meeting or talking or emailing with vendors daily and gathering the last of the needed items.  My dining room looks like a warehouse!

There has been little time for knitting.  Under that white paper is the completed and blocked " secret knitting".  Next week I can reveal it all to you because Saturday is gifting day, the last shower.

The flower girl dresses are almost complete except for hems.  I should have all the sashes together by the end of this week.  I think their simplicity is precious.  Just let the preciousness of the little girls shine though.

Last week was my birthday and I received a most wonderful gift.  Before I learned to knit, I cross stitched for a hobby.  I have as many charts as I do yarn!  My oldest daughter also shared this passion and is just amazing in her skill.  This project above was one I had begun and then put away like so many others.  Going through some boxes I found it and shared with Elizabeth that one day I would like to have this complete.  It reminds me of Maine, a state I dearly love.  Imagine my utter surprise when this was gifted to me last week.  Other family members had helped with the cost of framing and it is just stunning!  Im still feeling very unworthy.

Linking up with Ginny

Friday, July 24, 2015


Maybe the fact that I was raised in a fairly non-standard family and in sometimes not the best circumstances makes me cling to traditions.  Growing up, I don't really remember their importance and I don't remember telling family stories.  But Mr. Golfer's family is full of both traditions and stories and I loved the response his family had to them.

As a mother I have tried hard to create those for my girls.  Really just experiences they can hold onto.  And in the process, I have become a lover of stories.

This is one especially dear to my heart.  I had read somewhere long ago about a mother tucking a piece of her own gown into her daughter's.  My own gown is sealed in hopes it would one day be used.  With that not happening, I searched for another idea.

My oldest daughter's first engagement ended 8 weeks prior to the wedding.  A terrible experience for us all, but one we are now grateful of.  In the process of the planning, she had decided she wanted to wear my veil.  We had a section of it that was not currently stylish removed and then redesigned at the crown.  I saved the removed section because the alencon lace on it was so beautiful.

That lace has now become the piece of "me" that is sewn into their own gowns.  A mix of emotions washes over me when I pick up that needle and thread.  I do think about their life thus far and wonder what the future will bring.  I pray for them with each stitch as only a mother can do.

Wednesday, July 22, 2015

Yarn Along

I'm sure you have noticed these last few weeks how few and far between my posts are and the basicness ( is that a word?) of the pictures.  66 days until the wedding.  I still am working on flower girl sashes and so many details. Yesterday I did some searching for items for the children's area.  We have a room at this venue that will be perfect to plan activities just for the littles and have hired 2 friends of my oldest daughter to come in and supervise.  So I am gathering many little items for entertainment.  Of course they can come and go as they please, but having this area will also give the parents an opportunity to enjoy some kid free time.

But in the midst of that I got the knitting  startitis bug and found a new pattern.   Ashburn is a asymmetrical shawl of multiple colors.  I put together 3 sock yarns to get a good contrast so that it could be worn with just about any top this fall.  I haven't actually cast on yet. The green yarn is a Mad Tosh, the coral is from Wool Tree, and the gray is without a ball band so I'm unsure.  And as I progress, I could change out colors so this may be a great project for my antsy hands:)

It's also been a while since I posted my reading.  Probably because I just couldn't find anything to capture me.  But Mr.Golfer and I both wanted to read Go Set A Watchman.  So far it's not what I thought it would be.  They reviews had me completely confused and now I know why. . I'll give my own review once finished.

Linking up with Ginny!