Sunday, January 11, 2015

We Come Together





I never will get used to or comfortable with blending families.  I've raised and cherished my daughters all their lives and it is very difficult to let them go.  I've struggled with it since they left for college.  I know I'm not alone.

It was a wonderful engagement party.  Lots of friends and family from both sides, sweet desserts and a great open bar.  Stories and goodwill were everywhere.  The couple was happy.

This afternoon I spent time just reflecting back on the days of having everyone under one roof. Those days of still being able to impart wisdom and not be scorned for it.  Those days of being the only mother they knew.  Those days when what they learned in this home would always be the truth and they wouldn't search elsewhere.  Those days when what influenced them was discussed over long dinners.

I could go on and on. Those days are gone. And for Mr. Golfer and myself, amidst the happiness of seeing them happy, feel the sadness at our changing lives.  No longer are we the wisest.  No longer do we have all the answers.  And no longer do we participate in the decisions.

These next few months will be busy with many decisions.  Ones we've made before and new ones as our daughter puts her own stamp on this wedding.  Amidst the happiness, Mr. Golfer and I are praying for our own wisdom in trusting God to protect each of these girls.  That's all we can do.



7 comments:

  1. yes; it is hard to let people go and to allow them to grow up and be responsible; but it's the only way; if they do not learn to be responsible, how can they teach the next generation. .... as a comfort, I've read various places that it is good to ask the Mother of God to tell one's children (or friends etc) what they need to hear, esp. as we often are not going to be able to tell / say anything directly. The Mother of God loves Mothers and protects Children!!!

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  2. Yes Elizabeth! Our Blessed Mother is on speed dial:)))

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  3. I really love reading your blog. I am just beginning the process of letting go and so many of the feelings you express in your posts are some that I have had just recently with older kids off at college. It is just a comfort that someone knows how I feel. Thank you!

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    1. Denise, I'm glad you found me! I popped over to your space and love it! Words of wisdom on knitting.... I bought the Teaching Kids to Knit book and learned from there:))). Let me know if I can help!

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  4. I guess losing my mom so soon after marriage and having a wonderful MIL who became a 2nd mom to me, makes it easier to share my daughters with their new families. And I know the joy Mom had in finally getting a daughter after raising 2 sons, so I can hardly begrudge my SILs' moms the same - only one has a girl. Love multiplies!

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  5. looks like a beautiful party and I know how you feel in the letting go part. I have trouble as well but I try to do it gracefully and accept that this is part of life. May your daughter be every so happy in her new life's adventure!!

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    1. I agree Karen! Doing it gracefully. That is the key!

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